First NHS treatment

After couple of times appointment with GP and the clinic, I had my limp treatment today, which is the first time I use NHS.
It is free, and we paid our NI, and it is good. As a foreigner I think the doctor and nurses treated me with special gentle manner, like treat a child. after the injections at beginning, I don’t feel any pain at all, but I can see and feel the Indian doctor cut my lip, and peel some thing down inside. It took about 30 minutes to finish the operation and now 1 hour after the operation I feel painful, not surprise, it has four sewing.
The male nurse Mark told, don’t take any pain killer unnecessary and use salt water to wash it four times a day and don’t have any hard food. he is so nice, he said: Don’t nervous, the doctor is very experienced. if you feel painful later, just let us know, we will give more injection, you are doing very well Fengliang.

Room searching in Gaydon area

9:40 left for Kineton

Arrived 12:15 after a break.
This is a council house village, that room will be 2 bedrooms, one living room, but the living room was adapted to a bedroom.

Signed the contract with temporary living agreement with sad feeling.

Had lunch in Gaydon pub and started to look around that area afterwards.

By chance, came into the village Lighthrone. No information in the nice village board and M suggested to go the pub.
Full of helpful people, although the available room there is not suit me, they provide information. The first B&B charged 200£ a week, surprisingly the second one charged £500 a month. The viewing turn out to be wonderful, actually we came to front door of before, as we saw 4 stars AA, we left.
"I have a friend from Beijing, who is going to work for JLR, looking to rent a room, he is quiet and reliable."

Came back about 18:30.

Afterwards

Afterwards, I finally learned how to love
It's a shame you disappeared into the sea of faces.
Afterwards, though all the tears, I finally understood
That you can only miss somebody once.

White petals of orange flowers fall on my blue pleated skirt
"I love you," you softly say
I lowered my head and smelled the burst of fragrance
That eternal night; 17 years old, midsummer

That night you kissed me
Letting me in my future days, when I feel like sighing
To always remember that day's starlight
That love then, why was it so simple like that?
And also, why when we are young
Must we let those whom we love be hurt?
On this similar deep of night, are you the same?
Also feeling the quiet hurt of regret?

If at the time we could have been less stubborn
We would not feel regret now
How are you remembering me?
Does it bring you laughter or silence?
These past years, was there someone who could let you not be lonely?
It will never happen again.
To have that boy in love with that girl.

Friend in deed, friend indeed

Accepts you as you are; 接受本来的你
Believes in "you'; 信任你
Calls you just to say"hi';用"你好'和你打招呼
Doesn't give up on you; 不会对你失望
Envisions the whole of you;想像完全的你
Forgives your mistakes; 原谅你的错误
Gives unconditionally; 无条件的让步
Helps you; 帮助你
Invites you over; 请你吃饭
Just "be' with you; 和你在一起
Keeps you close at heart; 心理和你很近
Loves you for who you are;爱你就是因为你是你
Makes a difference in your life;让你的生活不同
Never judges; 从不做评价
Offers support; 提供支持
Picks you up 让你搭车
Quiets your fears; 平息你的恐惧
Raises your spirits; 让你精神振奋
Says nice things about you; 说你的好话
Tells you the truth when you need to hear it 当你需要听的时候跟你说真话;
Understandsb you; 理解你
Values you; 看重你
Walks beside you; 在你旁边散步
X-plain things you don't understand; 你不理解的时候向你解释
Yells when you won't listen; 当你不注意听的时候大叫提醒你
Zaps you back to reality. 让你回到现实来

There are three kinds of friendship....

Friendship based on utility. Utility is an impermanent things: it changes according to circumstances. So with the disappearance of the ground for friendship, the friendship also breaks up, because that was what kept it alive. Friendships of this kind seem to occur most frequently between the elderly (because at their age what they want is not pleasure but utility) and those in middle or early life who are pursuing their own advantage. Such persons do not spend much time together, because sometimes they do not even like one another, and therefore feel no need of such an association unless they are mutually useful. For they take pleasure in each other’s company only in so far as they have hopes of advantage from it. Friendships with foreigners are generally included in this class.

Friendship based on pleasure. Friendship between the young is thought to be grounded on pleasure, because the lives of the young are regulated by their feelings, and their chief interest is in their own pleasure and the opportunity of the moment. With advancing years, however, their tastes change too, so that they are quick to make and to break friendships; because their affection changes just as the things that please them do and this sort of pleasure changes rapidly. Also the young are apt to fall in love, for erotic friendship is for the most part swayed by the feelings and based on pleasure. That is why they fall in and out of friendship quickly, changing their attitude often within the same day. But the young do like to spend the day and live together, because that is how they realize the object of their friendship.

Perfect friendship is based on goodness. Only the friendship of those who are good, and similar in their goodness, is perfect. For these people each alike wish good for the other qua good, and they are good in themselves. And it is those who desire the good of their friends for the friends’ sake that are most truly friends, because each loves the other for what he is, and not for any incidental quality. Accordingly the friendship of such men lasts so long as they remain good; and goodness is an enduring quality. Also each party is good both absolutely and for his friend, since the good are both good absolutely and useful to each other. Similarly they please one another too; for the good are pleasing both absolutely and to each other; because everyone is pleased with his own conduct and conduct that resembles it, and the conduct of good men is the same or similar. Friendship of this kind is permanent, reasonably enough; because in it are united all the attributes that friends ought to possess. For all friendship has as its object something good or pleasant — either absolutely or relatively to the person who feels the affection — and is based on some similarity between the parties. But in this friendship all the qualities that we have mentioned belong to the friends themselves; because in it there is similarity, etc.; and what is absolutely good is also absolutely pleasant; and these are the most lovable qualities. Therefore it is between good men that both love and friendship are chiefly found and in the highest form.
That such friendships are rare is natural, because men of this kind are few. And in addition they need time and intimacy; for as the saying goes, you cannot get to know each other until you have eaten the proverbial quantity of salt together. Nor can one man accept another, or the two become friends, until each has proved to the other that he is worthy of love, and so won his trust. Those who are quick to make friendly advances to each other have the desire to be friends, but they are not unless they are worthy of love and know it. The wish for friendship develops rapidly, but friendship does not.

Happy birthday

Nice birthday.
No eggs to eat, I don;t want it. It is show the intention of parents want chilren to grow up fast.
Ji Li Gu Lu, another year.

I had a good day with people's love and care.

HSBC your point of view

An old lady walking ordinarily under the normal Chinese street tree shelter.

The a couple of questions being asked: do you feel she is wisdom or washed-up? Do you feel she is weak or strong? Do you feel she is beautiful or ugly?... Not easy to answer all these questions.

Does old age mean wisdom or washed-up? Should our elders be put on a pedestal or just pensioned-off?

Yourpointofview.com users are an optimistic bunch. 47 percent of respondents globally regard old age as "wisdom" while just 4 percent regard it as "terrifying" or a sign of "slowing down". The vast majority of you who believe old age equals wisdom describe yourself as "youngish" and also "live in town".

Here's how the world voted on Old Age
* wisdom 47%*

slowing down 10%*

new life 10%*

depressing 9%*

vulnerable 9%*

distinguished 7%*

terrifying 4%*

invisible 1%

http://www.yourpointofview.com/commentaryintroduction.aspx?id=9

English Gentle man

Being a true English gentleman is not, of course, simply a matter of behaviour. Anyone can learn how to pick the right colour of handkerchief or the correct way to address a bishop. To be worthy of the title of “gentleman”, you need to have been in training since birth. Born to upper-class parents, brought up by the right kind of nanny, attending one of a small selection of schools, you next need to negotiate the minefield of Oxbridge colleges, private clubs and foreign travel. Your choice of hobby, choice of tipple, choice of dog, horse and wife (in that order) will all speak volumes about your suitability for the role. You need to cultivate impeccable manners, an implacable expression and a strong sense of fair play. You’ll have money but not mention it, be patriotic but not shout about it, and always be perfectly turned out but not vain about it. Born in the 18th century and possibly reaching his apotheosis in the early 20th century, the English Gentleman now seems to be a dying breed. What do you think?

The English gentleman is noted for his reserve, his natural courtesy and also for his kindness and helpfulness to strangers
Roger Griffiths

The English gentleman does not have a concern with money, birth or power. He does not want to triumph or to win. He is certainly not interested in the "spots of commoness" so beloved of people who are trying to tell him that because he buys something he will be acting like a gentleman. He is classless and can choose to stop being a gentleman. In law perhaps he is someone who does not need to work (but nowadays that would apply to an awful lot of people). He is an ideal held up as a figure of fun by people wishing to promulgate their own ideals or justify their own pettiness and lack of feeling for people rather than countries or ideologies. A gentleman is concerned with people, courtesy and kindness but not qualities that arise from his sex, race, class or creed. Could he ever exist? Probably not, but some men do have some of the qualities of a gentleman. When we trust someone and our trust is shown to have been not misplaced, it is probably because we have met as near a gentleman as we can. But he is not a Saint.
Comment on The English Gentleman posted 2008-03-12 by Philip Johnson from York

It means only to have the finer things in life, but by only to achieve them through success by being the best at what you are, a gentleman.

Comment on The English Gentleman posted 2006-09-03 by carlos vazquez from usa

Not so much an icon, more an endangered species!
Comment on The English Gentleman posted 2006-08-07 by Maggie R from Australia, thank goodness

The English Gentleman, a perfect Mr Darcy. Wouldn't say no now would you?

Comment on The English Gentleman posted 2006-08-04 by Emma from UK

Excellent idea for the English Gentelman to be an icon. The vitues and behaviour would be the perfect for the the nations people to aim for. He is not a stereotype but an archetype to be idealised.
Comment on The English Gentleman posted 2006-02-21 by Andrew Russell from Wigan

Do we really want to continue the stereotype? Why would shallow arrogance be a good national icon? The public schools that bred 'gentlemen' were to rule over an Empire that made us rich on the back of still enduring third world poverty. Is that something we want to be proud of?
Comment on The English Gentleman posted 2006-02-20 by Janet Simpson from France